Thanks for your comment, Rob. I really appreciate what you are saying. As I said in the post, planning our wedding has brought up fundamental questions about our beliefs for both Matt and for myself. I didn’t expect that at all. I thought it would simply be a matter of picking a dress and some decor — planning an event. But really, it’s mapping out a way of life. It’s making one decision after another that creates a foundation for how we want to live and what we want to contribute to the world around us. Both as individuals nd as a unit. Which is fantastic and overwhelming and a marvellous gift!

I also enjoy that you liken it to making art, because it is very similar. The truth is that I was very nervous about this post and how it might be received. I was trivializing my own struggle as ‘frivolous’ or ‘unimportant’. It is great to receive feedback about how others are relating to my own struggle and conflict. I do really believe that conflict is an essential part of living an interesting life. My sister used to work for Joe Pantalone and he always said that life was a clash of value systems. I loved that idea.

My art has always come out of me bashing a bunch of contradictory ideas around and trying to make sense of them. I’m currently inside of that bashing around. Thanks for helping me make more sense of things! And for your warm words. 🙂

Melissa

Your wedding will be beautiful. I know it. And maybe you can give out Naomi Wolf books as favours… just to balance it all out. 😉